We came in this world alone and we have to leave this world alone too. But in between our arrival and departure lies a phase where we need to socialize and make friends…lots and lots of friends. There are some species of living beings which completes their life cycle without communicating or interacting much with the fellow individuals of their community and again there are these species which believe in socializing. Fortunately or unfortunately you and me belong to the latter kind.
Since human beings are the most social animals in this planet, so today you need to concentrate on your socializing skills in order to make the journey of your life smoother and happier. If you are among those who find it very tough to maintain a good relationship with people let me help you with some practical tips to get close
A lot of people often ask me—- “Every individual is different with different mindset and attitude. How Is it possible to please everyone?” Well I personally feel it is very much possible to maintain a healthy relationship with people in spite of the differences in their attitude and mentality. I can testify this fact with the help of these 6 points below which I follow every single day of my life.
If you want to form a strong bond with people first learn to respect each and every individual around you. Starting from doctors, engineers and affluent people to mediocre and people from lower classes of society, every individual deserves to be treated with respect. Shouting unnecessarily at a waiter in front of your date will not impress her. Neither can you earn goodwill by cursing the poor boy at the laundry.
Human beings, by nature are more inclined to treat those people with respect and dignity who are either equal to or higher than themselves in terms of money, position and class. This is wrong! No matter who you are and what you do, treat everyone with equal respect. And as your physics teacher taught “every action has an equal and opposite reaction”, these small acts of kindness too will come back to you in different form.
ii) Do not judge people:
The neighbor whom you tagged as ‘rude’, the ‘arrogant’ receptionist at the hotel who pissed you off, the ‘boring’ colleague who always skips the weekend parties and the ‘miser’ friend who never contributes for the movie tickets have always turned you off with their not-so-pleasant attitude, right? But have you ever tried to understand the other side of the story?
We often judge people from our perspective little realizing the fact that we all have a completely different life story. People around us are buried under tons of sorrows, tensions, frustrations and emotional turbulence; this is inevitable.
Today if you are able to laugh from heart be grateful to your god as millions of people across the globe have almost forgotten the taste of a good laughter. So rather than being judgmental try to accept people as they are and if possible try to provide them with mental support during this bad phase. Trust me, it gives peace of mind!
Perhaps the most important goal in forming a community is to live collectively and help each other in day to day life. This basic human trait has been in practice from time immemorial. Neither me, nor you can live alone and isolated. But today we are soon forgetting the art of co-operation. We think twice before offering a stranger a glass of water, helping an old man to cross a road and so on.
Share your notes with your friends, help your neighbor to clean his lawn, provide mental strength to your colleague who has just lost his uncle or do anything that can bring some peace in someone’s life. Every day, do some random act of kindness. Make it a goal to help people irrespective of any discrimination and no matter how small the help is, be satisfied with your effort. A little kindness from your part can seriously give someone a reason to smile.
iv) Learn to ignore
You are not a hulk nor are you living in a war zone. Do not make a scene out of every small issue in daily life. Some people have this tendency to take small things personally which can otherwise be ignored easily. Fighting, arguing and cursing people for every small matter will surely take you away from them. If you are one of those who finds problem with every other individual around you, it is high time you rectify this nature.
A casual joke, a sarcastic comment or a funny taunt by a fellow colleague or a friend will not kill you. Let us suppose a colleague makes a comment about your habit of laziness. Now what appeared to you as an insult may actually be a casual comment from his side without any intention to hurt you. So take these things sportingly.
v) Smile, smile and smile
If you observe carefully you can find that almost every other individual around you is trapped in their own problems. The world is already full of people who are depressed, frustrated, sad or angry due to some reasons or the other. Greeting everyone with a smile helps people to communicate easily with you. Make it a habit to flaunt a smile whenever you meet someone throughout the day as at any given day a bright and cheerful face is more welcome than a dull and rude gesture.
vi) Thrash jealousy:
Jealousy and love can never exist in the same plate. But sadly, jealousy exists everywhere around us. Starting from the classrooms of schools and colleges to the seminar rooms of corporate houses to our personal lives there are no short of jealous people. Learn to accept others’ success and instead of cursing them try to become a part of their celebration.
In our daily lives we often pretend to be someone’s well wisher while burying heaps of jealous emotions deep inside our heart. While we feel confident of our acting the truth is that people now-a-days are wise enough to differentiate between a fake and a real care.
Life becomes easier when we have good people around us whom we can count on! There is no peace in living an isolated life full of grudge, misery, loneliness and so on. So understand the importance of people in your life.
A lot of people spend their whole life buried under heaps of ego, negative attitude and unnecessary grievances and so on. These tendencies have never done any good to anyone neither will it do any good to you. Stop this today (if you are in this list) and start getting closer to people.
So, do you share a healthy relation with people around you?
Having said all these, now I would like to hear your views regarding this piece. Feel free to share your feedback and constructive criticisms or add any point in case I have left any. The comment box is all yours…