People, these days have become intolerant. Be it in joint families, offices, schools, colleges, apartment , society or in any community, we often find people struggling hard to stay peacefully with each other, even for a short period of time. Adjustment and co-operation, it seems have no or very little significance these days. This is probably the reason why we are fast losing the concept of joint families (even in India where nuclear families were rare even 2 decades back).
Though the moral science chapters in our early school days explained the need and ways to adjust with our surroundings, the sad part is that with growing age the lessons of these chapters have faded away from our memories.
If by chance you are too busy to read the whole post, do read the last part (Adjustment is not a magic) carefully. This post is a little effort from my part to help you understand the importance and benefits of adjustment in today’s life. So ahead and read the whys and hows in details:
You need to adjust because…
i) You are a social animal
Let me take you back to your biology books which taught about the social nature of human beings. We are meant to live in a society surrounded by a variety of people each having their own mindset, personality and attitude which will differ from our points of view.
Since we cannot afford to make ourselves isolated by opposing, confronting and fighting every time for petty issues, it makes sense to practice the art of adjustment.
ii) A friend is better than a foe:
Why create enemies when you can live peacefully with a little adjustment! Nobody likes a complaining partner/neighbor/friend/colleague and I guess even you share the same thought too. Sometimes it is absolutely okay to compromise or settle issues with people in a peaceful manner.
“A little adjustment is always better than a lengthy argument” —unknown
So try to adjust with people around you for your own good if not for them.
iii) Adjustment gives peace:
Trust me it gives a feel of satisfaction and peace when you learn to maintain peace with your surroundings. Though it is obvious that your ego will come in the way, but in the end it depends on you how you manage to control it.
In the initial days, things will be tough..Gradually your ego will became weak and eventually vanish in the long run.
iv) You are matured and responsible
People who are matured know how to adjust to changing circumstances. Don’t you want to be one of them? When you learn the art of adjustment you create a positive approach toward life and learn to move away from silly fights and unnecessary arguments.
Annoying people will always be annoying. Why fight with an idiot and ruin your peace of mind! Ignore and move away from such people.
v) You cannot be right always
We fight, we resist, we oppose and we confront all the actions that offend us. A very few of us can admit our own faults (which takes enough maturity, courage and positive approach). To err is human and since we cannot be right always, sometimes it is better to admit our limitations and adjust with the views of people around us.
vi) Avoid conflict
You can avoid a number of unnecessary conflicts and fights with a little adjustment. A minute of heated argument can waste your whole day. Avoid such situations and stay calm and quiet.
Some benefits of adjustment:
i) you become a better human being
ii) your friend circle grows when you start adjusting with people.
iii) No matter how tough the situation is you can confidently tackle it.
iv) You can survive even in the most adverse conditions and situations.
Adjustment is not a magic
We all have that one person either in our professional network or in our personal circle who goes very easy with even the most difficult-to-handle people. While different people may explain this trait by using different logic, the fact is that these sensible people are matured enough to understand that it is better to adjust than to waste energy and time in confronting people for petty issues. Individuals who can adjust with anyone irrespective of their bad temper, behavior, abnormality are not magicians. They are as common as you, me or any other people around us. What sets them apart is their ability to go well with people whom they deal with in their everyday life.
In today’s world you cannot afford to cut yourself from the society and live arrogantly without caring for the world. We need our friends and well wishers in the walk of life. Adjusting and acting responsibly with people takes you closer to their heart.
Over to you
Now that you have understood the benefits of adjusting with people it is important to know how to do this. In the coming post I will explain in details a few effective steps to help you learn this art. Please feel free to share your views or post your queries in the comment section.