This guest post is submitted by Claire Adams, a personality development expert and HR & ER Specialist
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It’s every parent’s wish that their child is healthy, happy and successful. Raising your children as optimists as well has many benefits for their physical and mental well-being. Optimists always have a positive outlook on life and make the best of every situation. To them, the glass is half full and dealing with life’s challenges is a no-brainer.
However, teaching your child to be an optimist is a process that takes time and patience, but it will help them immensely to grow into a responsible and self-sufficient adult.
Here are the top seven practices for beginners that will help you raise an optimist in your household.
Focus on the good
The first step towards a more positive attitude is showing your kids how to focus more on the good and to look on the bright side of life. Teach them that everything happens for a reason and that even in an unpleasant situation something good can be found. Small kids can get really disappointed if they want to go outside and play but it starts raining heavily. Make the best of the situation and create a playdate at home: make a fortress out of blankets in their bedroom, prepare their favourite snacks and read their favourite stories or play a board game.
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Moreover, stop complaining. You are the best role model for your children and constantly complaining about difficulties in life will only discourage them and turn them into pessimists. The more you complain about your job, money or bad traffic, the more likely it is that your kids will start doing the same. Instead, play a game with your kids at the end of the day where everyone shares the best and worst of what happened, but draw attention to the best moments.
Encourage risk taking
All parents struggle between their desire to protect their kids and let them learn on their own through taking risks. It’s completely natural that you’d want to avoid your child falling from the monkey bars or while skateboarding and getting hurt, but if you constantly discourage them from taking risks, you’ll undermine their confidence and they’ll start seeing every activity as a potential tragic outcome.
Assist in problem solving
Furthermore, if you notice your child is coming home feeling down about something, talk to them. Assure them that whatever the problem is, it’s not permanent and it can be solved. Teach them how to solve those problems themselves by offering subtle hints and in time, they’ll become positive thinkers and efficient problem solvers.
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Embrace both success and failure
Teach your kids that it’s ok to fail sometimes and make mistakes as it’s the best way to learn. They need to understand that nobody is flawless and that practice makes perfect. If the struggle involves a school subject, don’t hesitate to get help. Private lessons can be a great help and teachers all around the world offer excellent support, including Australia. Hiring experts who can encourage your child to approach the problem more creatively can be the answer to your troubles.
Offer a different point of view
Whenever a problem arises, whether it’s a simple argument with a sibling, a fight with a school friend or a disagreement with the other parent, it’s very helpful if you offer them a different standpoint. Help them understand the issue and explain that it’s quite normal that different people see things differently.
Another way to encourage their learning and boost their self-confidence is by developing their empathy and compassion by exposing them to various learning environments. It’s essential for your kids to get the chance to communicate with their peers, teachers and people with special needs.
There are many institutions today that work with underprivileged children and lack volunteers. By choosing to participate and by including your child in the work, you’ll offer them a unique opportunity to help others, give their contribution to society and bring about a positive change themselves.
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Finally, teaching your kids to be grateful for every big or small thing in life will help them appreciate the world around them more and learn to be happy with what they’ve got.
In the end, remember that the best way to teach your child to be an optimist is by setting an example yourself.
About the Author
Claire is a personal and professional development expert who believes that a positive attitude is one of the keys to success. You can find her online writing and giving tips about lifestyle and development as a regular contributor at highstylife.com
Social media links: facebook.com/clairenadams